The Hemingway Post: "F**k it we ball"

Howdy,

It’s been a while! Well actually only a week, but still…I miss you.

Not to make it weird or anything, but I love writing about this stuff. And I’m sure you like improving yourself, so it’s a win-win.

We have a couple of things on the agenda today. Here they are:

1. “F**k it we ball”

2. Lies of social media

3. The meme dream

Let’s dive in, shall we?

“F**k it we ball”

Could I have chosen a million other quotes instead of this one? Yes.

Do I regret it? Absolutely not (sorry mom).

To start, let’s see what this saying even means. To do that, we’ll go to the most credible source out there…the Urban Dictionary:

“Fuck it we ball” meaning: “My life is in utter disarray, yet in spite of that, in spite of every set back I must face, I will rise to the occasion at any opportunity…”

Wow. That’s definitely not what I expected, but I’m pleasantly surprised.

Urban Dictionary: 1, The Hemingway Post: 0.

Anyways, let’s unpack this…

I’m sure you’ve had moments in your life where the odds were stacked against you. Where life kept pushing you down, no matter how many times you got back up.

But hey, you’re standing now, right?

Well, maybe you’re sitting…or lying down…or on the toilet?

Either way, you got through it. And, I would bet that you’re a better person because of it.

This is the key takeaway: Adversity makes you stronger, better, smarter, more empathetic, and insert more positive adjectives.

It’s like a cheat code for growth (don’t cheat in school kids…or on your taxes…only to improve yourself).

Firstly, when we are doing something difficult, we learn the most. We see what we’re really made of.

Don’t you feel satisfied when you wake up early and go for a run? Or have a difficult talk with a loved one about your mental health?

Maybe when you eat healthy even when that Krispy Cream donut is on the counter calling your name (I’ve lost this battle many times, unfortunately).

No matter what it is, it wasn’t easy…and you did it.

You become better every time this happens. You learn more about your capabilities and build your skillset.

Not only that… you build something even more important: Your self-esteem. Insert cool explosion noises.

You believe in yourself not because of how others treat you, your daily affirmations, or the research you’ve done…

You believe in yourself because you have evidence to back it up.

You can say, “I’ve gotten through worse,” or “I’ve done this before” because you actually have. You didn’t just read about it, you walked the path on your own two feet.

And if there’s one thing I know to be true it is this:

A desire to succeed + self-confidence = Greatness

If you know where you want to go and fully believe you can get there, nothing is gonna stop you.

Nothing.

When you're facing a challenge, think of the phrase, “f**k it we ball.”

Don’t say it out loud though…maybe just think it. But if you do say it out loud, expect some weird looks.

Rise to the challenge and get it done. You’ll be a better, more confident person because of it.

The Lies of Social Media

You ever open Instagram or Facebook and see this post:

Your friend, colleague, or someone you know lying on a lawn chair on the beach. The waves from the crystal clear water are lapping against the shore, making a melodic song. The sun is out in tropical paradise, and all is well.

If you have, I bet you told yourself something like, “Wow, it must be nice,” or “I wish that was me.”

Trust me, I get you. I’ve been there, done that.

When you see Bob smiling in Hawaii or Sally living the dream in the Maldives, it’s hard not to be jealous.

But you have to realize that’s not their life.

I’m sure you’ve heard that social media is like a highlight reel: It shows the good (example: my dance moves) and hides the bad (example: my singing skills).

Bob and Sally could be fighting mental health issues, going through a divorce, having a mid-life crisis, or anything in between.

But we don’t see that. We only see the good.

Social media isn’t the truth…most of the time, it’s an illusion.

So, here’s what I recommend:

Don’t base your expectations on what you see on social media. Take everything with a grain of salt.

Not everyone is in perfect shape, on their dream vacation, with endless money and their lives figured out.

Chances are, they’re fighting their own battles and dealing with their own problems. But none of that stuff is posted online.

As I talked about in an earlier post, I’m experimenting with deleting my social media apps during the day.

It’s helped me stop comparing and start living. Consider trying it and see if it works for you.

The Meme Dream

Usually, we’d wrap up with the meme of the week…

But you may have noticed multiple memes throughout this post.

This leads me to a huge announcement I want to make:

From now on, there will be multiple memes in every newsletter. Insert super mega explosion noises and mic drop at the same time.

I’ll be throwing memes your way like there’s no tomorrow.

My goal is to make self-improvement fun, and I think this is a step in the right direction.

My goal for this newsletter is to provide you with the necessary information to improve yourself.

My vision is to create a community centered around personal growth, including other platforms.

What I’m trying to say is that this is just the beginning.

I’ll be constantly strategizing, optimizing, and (hopefully) growing.

But to do this, I’ll need your help…send me an email @[email protected] with any thoughts, feedback, or advice.

This will help me give you the info you want and get rid of what you don’t.

I urge you to share The Hemingway Post with friends and family so they can join the party too. Follow me on Instagram and Linkedin for more content like this.

That's all for this week…

Keep making progress. Change for the better. Live the Heming-way.

See you next Monday,

Trevor