Success

I wrote about this topic a few months back, but I want to do so again because I find it very important.

After all, I try not to reinvent the wheel while writing these…. they are simple reminders of things we already know but sometimes forget.

Throughout my teen years, my judgement of what success looks like became more and more twisted. Due largely in part to social media, unrealistic expectations of how my life should look began to form in my head.

I now recognize these things for what they are: False stories.

However, that doesn’t mean they don’t affect me at times. Seeing others graduate school, go on exotic trips, get married, land their dream job, etc. can be difficult to wrestle with. On one hand, I’m very glad these people are achieving “success,” yet it’s difficult not to compare.

Although social media further magnifies feelings of jealousy and the urge to compare, it is prevalent in real life too. At times, I feel like the people around me are moving forward and know exactly where they’re going while I’m being left in the dust…

But there is no one measure of success.

You don’t have to be at a certain place in your life at a certain age. You don’t have to play catch-up with others. And what would you be “catching up” to anyways?

As you wouldn’t measure the success of a fish by how well it can fly, you wouldn’t measure your own success by the standards of another. It logically doesn’t make sense.

What does make sense is to define what success looks like in your life. Write it down. Picture it. Even change it at times as you grow. After all, you know yourselves far better than anyone else.

Once you have your vision of success clearly defined, anything you do which falls under that umbrella is a win.

I hope you gained some value from this week’s post.

This is something that’s been on my mind the last few days, and I figured I would share it in the hopes of helping you out.

Remember, success for you won’t look like success for your neighbor, or your family, or anyone else. Define it for yourself, and count your wins, however small, as you work toward it.

Keep making progress. Change for the better. Live the Heming-way.

Til next time,

Trevor

p.s. Proverbs 3:5-6